Tag Archives: Compromise

I call it the money pit!!!

18 Nov

My best friend is getting married and Im her maid of honor and just by tagging along with her for the past few months I’ve realized how big of a money pit/ bottomless pit planning a wedding. First is the engagement ceremony, then we have the showers, the parties and the wedding it self. All these parties cost ridiculous amounts of money. I totally feel bad for anyone who is planning a wedding. Everything you want to the smallest things you can think of is an extra cost!

We decided to cut some cost by making our own money-box. We managed to save some money with that idea about $30 which is not bad. But even buying a flat plain box costs us $20 which we later realized we could have got the same thing two doors down for $5 less. haha

Another thing that annoys me is the guest’s gifts idea . basically we’re telling people please come to our party that we spent thousands of dollars on and we even going to give you gifts. I understand it’s something nice to do in return for all the gifts you get but at the same time I feel bad when newly weds go in debt because of their weddings.

Some people even put themselves in a bigger hole by having multiple weddings, it’s absolutely alright to do that since most people nowadays are from different places and they end up having a wedding in their country of residence, another at the groom’s home country and one for the bride’s family. BIG money people…BIG MONEY! But I’m a big fan of destination weddings, my sister got married in 3 different countries, my friend is marrying in 3 countries too.

I guess by the time all these weddings are over, all they have to look forward to is their honeymoon which they can’t take right away since they spent all their money on their wedding(s). hahaha, its somewhat sad since honeymoons used to be such a big deal and actually a month-long, now if you get a week off you’re lucky!

I’m sorry, you don’t have the criteria….

26 Oct
Mr. Right

I haven't found Mr. Right but I found all the rest of them! lol

Everybody I know has a list in their head when it comes to their potential mates. It could be a physical need or personality or mixture of both them. Some people are more forgiven and flexible when it comes to their lists than others. Let’s say they’ll sacrifice the height requirements for bit more of a colorful personality, swapping 6 packs with a bit of belly and a fat wallet (uhem, Gold Digger!!! haha), you get the idea.I never actually consciously made a list, I’m more of a go with the flow girl but I have standards! hahah

I thought it would be maybe fun to make list to see if I can figure out what I like in a men. I dated enough of them, been in relationships and by now I should have an idea….


So, here it goes…

– Age – I have 5 yr age limit, I find it I get along with my generation better than the older ones.

– Some one who’s ambitious in their work life, but no workaholics.

– I’m not picky about the physical attributes, dated tall ones, short ones, fit ones and not so fit ones. I always said as long as they’re not smaller than me, we’re good to go! lol

– Interesting personality, I want to learn new things from him. I’m all about actually growing up and learning new things together.

– Creativity and being handy is very important, I’m always running around with new projects and I want a partner who can hold up their own when it comes to these types of things.

– World traveler, I was lucky enough to travel all around the world and experience new cultures and things and I want someone who enjoys taking off for a week to go city hopping.

– Family guy, good relation with his family. Well, within reason, I’ve heard in-laws could be in the way sometimes. haha

– He has to have his own friends and a life outside of a relationship, I find couples who just hangout with each other annoying and boring.

– This point is a little shallow maybe but I find it important, he MUST have a car!!! I drive myself everywhere and sometimes I enjoy being driven around. If you’re wondering, yes I like nice cars, no room for negotiation on this one! :S

– Last criteria is one of the most important ones in my list and it’s the dumbest one.lol, I can not stand hairy men! Sorry guys, chest hair, back hair make me a bit grossed out. 😦

Hmmm, I can’t think of other things…so far I’ve been lucky to stay true to this list but finding a healthy ratio of the above criteria is very tricky. I have to be honest though make this list was fun though because it made me think of all the good attributes of boyfriends past and what attracted me to them. So cheers guys for making my list and thanks for making it easier to find Mr. TdotRight! 🙂

p.s.: The list was made with the understanding that the following groups got no chance: drunks, druggies, criminals, psychos, bums and etc. Just wanted to put that out there..lol…

Compromised debit card, again!

29 Aug

OK everyone, you know how we are in recession and not everyone might have a job or working that much. Keep that image and add the fact that I haven’t worked for a week (no income) and its almost end of the month (bills coming in!) and oh plans to go on a a 10 day long vacation in the following week. You got that image in your head?

Yeah, it’s a little bit of panic of what if I run out of money while I’m gone and the excitement that you know even during shitty recession times you still have the luxury of being able to not for a week and still go on a long vacation. Now, picture checkign your bank account online and realizing some A-hole has withdrew all your money out of your bank account! Shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit…. Yep, that was me at mid-night last night! I was feeling so violated and mad since my bank didn’t even bother to notify me when they saw someone withdrawing random amounts of money from my account!

Funny part of the story is I was the one who told the bank about the whole thing after calling them the next day and finding out that the IDIOT had went back and took the last $20 out of my account…Geez thanks!

So all I got from my bank after telling them that this was unacceptable and this has happened to me 6 times within the last year was, oh sorry!

I had to stay on the phone for 30 mins to see if they can give me some over draft since I have stuff like student loans that get taken out of my account at the end of each month. woop-de-doo!!!!! But for my vacation fund and well the rest of my money oh well, we call you in 10 days!!!! WTF! Ill be on my vacation by then and Ill be needing my money! In my innocence I asked the lady over the phone if she knew where my card was compromised and the answer i got threw me off completely, sorry we can’t tell you because of the privacy laws. Are YOU KIDDING ME!!!!! Someone invaded my privacy and took my money and now we’re protecting them??? The law seems messed up sometimes…

So lets just say I wasn’t very happy at all. What got me even more angry was that who ever took all my money used a bank machine other than my own bank so I had to pay service charge for every withdraw they made!!! How sad is that, I paid the fee to get my money stolen…

I just hope this mess gets sorted out before my vacation and I hope that whoever has taken my money dies a horrible death!!!